9.30.2011

Don't let the "Mean Girls" get to you...

Today, I was prepared to write about adult mean girls. Prior to the base that I am currently at, I had heard the headlines about adult mean girls. Truthfully, I thought it was hype...I had never met an adult mean girl in real life.  However, as I became more involved at this base, I realized that I found the breeding ground of that rare animal called, "Adult Mean Girls." The more volunteer and leadership positions that I took on, the more that I made myself a target for these adult mean girls.

I was sure that I would be writing the reasons as to why there seem to be more adult mean girls within military communities and I came up with some theories that made a lot of sense (at least to me).  My first theory was that girls who were not popular growing up have the chance to start fresh and still have a chip on their shoulder for how someone may have treated them growing up. Another theory was that some people are just more miserable being away from family and their support system and like to take it out on others. I tried to analyze the actions that I saw by these people; however, the truth is that the mean girl with the biggest vengeance towards me liked me until we were at the same event and everyone raved over how cute my daughter was, but nobody said a comment about her daughter the same age.

The adult mean girls on my base made it so that I did not like volunteering. I continued to volunteer, but instead of the normal "feel good" feeling that comes from giving of your time for something great, it felt like a chore. As of yesterday, I had enough with mean girls and I was ready to just get to my new base...and selfishly, I already had it in my head that I did not want to volunteer when I got there. I know that you are not supposed to feed a bully by letting them know that they have gotten to you, but the truth is yes-- the mean girls get in my head and it hurts.

Today, I had a change of heart. Not about the mean girls...the facts are that they are out there, there seem to be more on military bases, and I will probably always run into a mean girl somewhere. However, I am not going to let them get me so far down though that I stop volunteering. Volunteering had felt like a thankless job...which the truth is that a lot of volunteer opportunities in military communities are thankless.  As nice as it feels though to get acknowledged, I do not volunteer for the pat on the back...I do it to help other military families-- because I have a heart for others.

What brought this change of heart today? Someone that cared enough to make sure that I did get acknowledged before I switch bases. That person recommended me for a Base Commander's Coin and Certificate of Excellence.  The irony is that it was for the smallest of my volunteer positions. However, that is what made it the most special...the fact that it was a little thing that I dis that got noticed and that the acknowledgment today was totally unexpected.


9.29.2011

Don't take the easy way out...

Me at the podium speaking at a college conference speaking on "Managing a Full Platter"
...now, I am the one feeling life getting the better of me and my platter is tipping and overflowing a little.  

Today's life lesson is not to take the easy way out. As I switched over from website to blog, I thought it would be quick and easy to just "copy and paste" the articles into here that I did not want to lose. I loved the fact that I did not have to insert each picture individually. As I checked in on the blog today, I realized that taking the easy way out turned around and bit me...all of my pretty pictures are gone and my readers are stuck looking at a boring page of just words.

Apparently, the pictures did not actually copy over; instead, they linked to the website and since it it is gone so are the pictures. I do vow to replace the pictures...it will be a couple of weeks though. I know...that is not encouraging news. I promised bigger and better changes as I moved over from website to blog. This was supposed to be a great move and instead I seemed to fall off of the face of the earth.

Well, I have not exactly fallen off of the face of Earth, but I am gearing up to move to the other side of it. Over the last few months, this Army family found out that our adventures will continue in a different country. With that news we have been busy preparing and so many great writing ideas have gone through my head... unfortunately, the busyness has given me a form of writer's block. I will admit that I have been overwhelmed with the sense that my "to do" list is longer than the hours in the day. Instead of my writing looking like an outlet, it came as another task on the "to do" list...even though it does not take much time to write an article and edit a picture to go with it, time just felt like something that I did not have. Realistically, it was more of a writer's block-- the ideas were there, but I just could not bring myself to write...probably out of guilt of everything else that I should be accomplishing.

Today, I took the step. Today is the first day of really writing on the new blog...and boy do I have things to write about! Life is busy, busy, BUSY right now. That busyness gives a lot of writing topics though...topics that help other military families that are going through the same thing and yet interesting to those who are not military and just looking in. Today's blog article came with the announcement of a big move, but it also comes with the promise to get my writing back on track. I will continue to write articles regularly from now on out...as for getting the new blogs fully set up the way that I want and fixing the old content that I transferred, it will get done...I just ask for your patience over the next couple of weeks as I get things prepped for the movers to pick up our household goods.

Please stick around and join us on over overseas adventure!

9.15.2011

Bugle Etiquette


One of my favorite articles that I am transferring from my website as I transition to blogs. 
The scene: It is 5 p.m. and you are driving through base. You come up to a green light and find some person “parked” in front of the light. You start to boil. You start to honk. You think something along the lines of, “Man- this idiot must not be paying attention!” Nope- not true…that “idiot” is probably me (or someone like me) and I’m definitely paying attention to something– the sound of the bugle call playing retreat signifying that somewhere on base the flag is being lowered.
Welcome to my pet peeve…my biggest pet peeve of all pet peeves. If you have business on base (whether you are military, a family member, a civilian employee or contractor, or even just a visitor) the you have the responsibility to educate yourself on the etiquette and protocol of how things are done on base. Which, yes, for us spouses there should be a spouse’s handbook or a mini-bootcamp teaching us all of the important things we need to know about military life (minus the rough and tumble stuff). There is part of me that thinks I cannot fault someone for not knowing, but at the same time people need to take responsibility for themselves…which in this situation if you see cars pulling over and hear music, then you might start to wonder if there is something you should know. I am posting this because this hasn’t been a once or twice thing…watching people ignore the bugle calls is a daily basis thing around my base.
So, here is my “course” in Bugle Call 101:
There are 3 times a day that the music will usually play:
Reveille- generally around sunrise. My base has a set time of 6:30 a.m. …which is also the time that you will see a lot units form for p.t. (physical training) so that they can pay proper respect  in a formation as the flag is being raised.
Retreat- generally around sunset as the flag is being lowered. 5p.m. for my base.
Taps- signifying the end of the day. 9p.m. for my base.
**Check with your individual base for actual times at your location.
The significance/history of the bugle calls:
Reveille: The bugle call of either “To the Colors” or the “National Anthem” (depending on your base) is played with the rising of the “Colors” (the American Flag). Many bases have a single canon shot accompany the bugle call. Reveille is the French word for “wake up” and is believed to have been used all the way back to the 1600′s as way of waking soldiers for battle.
Retreat: A bugle call for “Retreat” is sounded just before the American Flag is lowered and the song “To the Colors” is played during the actual lowering of the flag.  ”Retreat” is also a French Crusades bugle call. It signified the end of the day and for soldiers to return to their quarters for the night. (If only war was really that dignified and stopped for soldiers to get a good night’s rest.) The combination of “Retreat” with “To the Colors,” as we see it today, is believed to date back to the American War for Independence (otherwise known as Revolutionary War).
Taps: “Taps” is played at the end of the day signifying the end of the working day or “lights out.” The tradition originated with the playing of  the French song, “L’Extinction des feux” which was later thought to be too formal and changed to the bugle call “Tattoo” which later morphed into “Taps” that we know today. Most people think of “Taps” as a way to honor fallen soldiers at funerals, but it is also played at the end of the day to honor those who gave their lives that day.
Protocol during the bugle calls (in simplest terms):
  • ANYONE IN CIVILIAN CLOTHES (military, their spouses, civilians of any type including children) should immediately stop what they are doing, face the flag (if you cannot see a flag then face either the direction you know the flag is or where the music is coming from), remove any hats, and place their hands over their hearts…same  as they would for the playing of the “National Anthem.”
  • Military members not in a formation, but still in uniform (including pt-s) should come to attention and salute while the music is being played. (**Military members should definitely be aware of protocol for bugle calls for every situation and if not be clarifying with their command…so, I’m not going in depth. However, with that said, I did have a Navy person in uniform ask me what the music meant and if they were to do anything while it played…so, PLEASE- if you are on a joint military base and are not aware of protocol…PLEASE ask!)
  • If the bugle calls play while you are driving on base, you should pull to the side of the road. All military personnel shall get out of the car and pay the proper respect while the bugle call is being played. (When riding in buses and military trucks, only the senior member needs to get out.)
**Note- There is no official protocol for when taps is played as it is not a “flag ceremony.” However, it is an unwritten courtesy to pay the same respects (stand at attention) for this as well…afterall, it is to honor those who have given the ultimate sacrifice.
Source for Army regulation: AR 600-25 Section 3-1 Reveille and Retreat, and Appendix C-2 Ceremonies(which section 3-1 refers the reader to).

Changes Coming


As I approach the year mark for my website (September), I decided to look over my website to see what things I liked or didn’t like and see how I want to move forward. The timing of this coincided with Google announcing that they had done some major upgrades on their blogging system this past year. This made me look back to the start of my website.
I originally started off doing a blog. I wanted to do a blog that was able to talk about life’s little anecdotes about being a military family, all of our little travel adventures, and of course FOOD! When I originally looked into doing a blog, there were two aspects that I did not like…(1) I wanted to be able to insert my own pictures as a background and (2) I could not have separate pages on my blog for each of my blog topics…I didn’t want them to blur into one giant hodge podge.
I liked the idea of having my own website as I was able to set it up the way that I wanted. The one catch to the website and the popularity that it grew was that it ended up not being my initial intent. I had requests for help and advice…so, instead the main focus went to ‘tips and hints for military families.’ I didn’t mind helping others…I love to help others. The catch was that I felt that my focus needed to always have a military angle and if it didn’t then I felt guilty. I found myself writing more informational pieces than free flowing writing that still had my voice in them…even I will admit that some of them were dry to read, but they were definitely informational!
As I was looking now into where I wanted my website to take me, the news headlines had me heading back to Google and their blogs. I also saw the carefree blogs that my friends wrote that were taking off so well…as I read blogs that were started after mine, I had almost a tinge of jealousy at the fact that my friends could just write on whatever they wanted. They were having so much fun and yet my website had turned into a job…especially with all of the extra maintenance that it took to do things like clear out inboxes with thousands of posts of spam.
I decided to give Google’s blogs a second look. When I checked out their updates, I found that I could insert my own photo into any of their layouts. Even though they added extra permanent pages that you could put on the blog, I didn’t find a way to link blog posts to the individual pages. There may be a way and I just didn’t see it, but I did find my own fix. I have decided to do three separate blogs based upon my original intent. This also goes back to my post a few weeks ago about priorities and taking back my life.
What does this mean for this website? Over the next couple of weeks, I will be setting up the following 3 blogs:
Our Army Family Life- This blog will be life’s little anecdotes about a day in the life of our Army family. The topics here are whatever pops into my head that day…it can range from kids to things around the house to stuff dealing with actual military life. While there will be the tips and hints that happy in normal everyday life, I do not intend for this to be a self help blog giving all of the answers for military family. What it will do is give family, friends, and any on lookers a glimpse into our life.
Our Army Family Adventures- As a military family, we have the opportunity to travel and see places that we may have not otherwise seen. As a family, we make a point of getting out and enjoying whatever area we are in. This blog will feature the places that we see (or have seen) as well as little travel tips when they come up.
Our Army Family FOOD!- As I jump back into the world of blogging, I cannot leave my love of food behind. My food blog will feature recipes worth sharing, new foods I try, and reviews of places that I have eaten.
By dividing the blogs, it allows readers to continue following me in the areas that interest them. Not every blog will have a new post every day, but by writing on what inspires me it will actually prompt me to write more because I will have my voice back and enjoy writing again. The Twitter and the Facebook page will remain. The Twitter may begin to get more updates that coincide with the themes of the new blogs and the Facebook may also gain some conversation questions making it more interactive.
As I set up each of the blogs, I will transfer some of the articles from this website so that they are still around for reference. I will post the links for the new blogs as soon as each is ready for viewing. This website will be around until September at which time I do not intend to renew the hosting for it.
I would like to finish this out by saying thank you to everyone who follows the blog. It is all of you who have made this website a success and I hope/welcome you to continue to follow over at the new blogs. Looking at the past 10 months by the numbers, we have been visited by over 8,000 different people (which the computer only tracks those who allow tracking; so, there can very well be more people) from 61 countries. These numbers are small in comparison to the major websites that we are used to, but it is definitely not bad not for my home grown 10 month old website. My only regret (haha) is that the one state in the United States that I did not get a visitor from (or at least not one that registered in the tracking system) was Vermont.
Thank you again. I will be posting the new links soon.

Priorities


I am happy to come from a family with many admirable qualities…qualities that I would like to think I have inherited as well. One of those qualities is a strong work ethic. I have always been taught to give things my full effort in all I do, to never do anything halfway, and to strive for perfection. My strong work ethic and ability to do a good job at anything I set my mind to has made me a desired commodity.
Maybe these qualities make me too desired. Another admirable quality that I have inherited is a notion to give back to the community and be giving to those around me. Military life gives me plenty opportunities to give of my time. Rephrase- too many opportunities to give of my time and, with a strong work ethic, it seems that everyone wants that time. While many people would be eager to hear the phrase, “You’d be great at this,” it makes me cringe. Yes- I would be great at this; that is why I am already doing it for multiple people already. What many people not associated with the military do not realize is that a lot of the amenities on bases are possible because of the volunteers. The military requires a vast number of volunteers in order to help run the softer side of the military- the family side.
Strong family values and a close knit family are two other inherited qualities of importance to me. Unfortunately, it was my tween’s comment, “It seems like everyone else has your time lately,” that made me realize my life has been spread too thin lately. My priorities have become unbalanced. I also inherited a bad quality from my family– the inability to say, “no,” when asked to help with something.
One major time crunch for me lately has been starting up a Family Readiness Group (FRG) for my husband’s unit. For those who do not know what it is, the briefest explanation is that it is a program required by the military to help the families with resources and support during deployments as well as keep the morale within the family side of the unit when not deployed. With turnover in our unit, this program was something that over time drifted away. I was approached getting the program up and running again…which meant starting from scratch. In turn, that meant a LOT of hours getting it started.
Starting an FRG for the unit is not something that I mind doing, it is  just time consuming. With that, I kind of took a slap in the face when a female soldier told me that she knew I would be perfect because I had so much time on my hands and that I would not be, “just staying home bored with the girls anymore.”  Was that REALLY what she thought my life was like? Did she really think that stay-at-home moms sat home bored every day? If she only knew. I am not going to get in the whole working mom vs. stay-at-home mom debate as I have lived both sides of it. What I will say is that currently, between actively playing mommy to a toddler, home schooling a tween, keeping up with housework, running my own website (not so effectively after tossing in FRG), and other volunteer commitments prior to taking on FRG, I had more tasks to do in my day than hours to do it in.
A few years ago, I taught a lecture at a college conference titled, “Managing a Full Platter.” The concept was that my life was so busy that I did not just have a full plate, but instead I had a platter. Despite having that platter of commitments, I was able to keep my life in balance to keep everything organized and down. Somehow, over the last few years my own platter has begun to tip over and some of the metaphorical food is falling off. I plan to keep my focus in the direction of my priorities. Now, I am taking back my life. I will not be giving up any of the commitments that I have made, but I do plan to keep my life in order to make sure that the most important aspects stay at the top of my list. What are these priorities? Here are the top three:
(1) The Christian foundation that my family was built upon.
(2) My family itself. This section is broad and can mean so many things- playing with my kids so that they know that mommy enjoys spending time with them, home schooling my older daughter and this coming year incorporating preschool for my younger daughter, keeping my house a home- which includes keeping it clean and organized, showing my love to my family through the food that I prepare, and so many more aspects.
(3) Time for me. The person that I never take time for is myself. I am very good at making sure that everyone else is taken care of; however, I tend to neglect myself. I plan to make *me* a priority. I do not plan to become self absorbed, but I do plan to make sure that I have a place on that balanced platter in my life. Part of time for me is actually this website. Yes- it is another form of giving time for others, but the truth is that it helps me as well…writing is what I love to do. Writing allows my mind to take a break from normal life and focus in a different direction for a period of time. Writing on the website also help me keep some of my writing skills for when I choose to enter the work force again. While my writing on this website is not exactly the style that I would write if I was writing for pay, it allows me to try out different writing styles and still gives me a voice.
Maybe you are like me. Maybe you have found your life a little out of skew lately. Sometimes it is hard to tell when your priorities are a little off kilter and we do not realize until we drop that full platter. I encourage everyone to look at their life. What are your priorities? Is your time distributed so that the majority of your time is going to your priorities? I once attended a lecture where they gave us a pie chart with different commitments (school, work, volunteering, family, etc.) and asked us to draw a line within each section as to how much time we dedicated to each commitment. The question in the end was if your circle was still round. The theory was that you should be perfectly balanced between each area of your life. The truth is that each of our priorities are different. Instead, know your priorities and know your limitations. Make sure that the important aspects of your life get the most of your time and make sure that you do not go beyond the overall limits of time that you have to give in the day. I know that there are days when I wish there were more hours in the day, but the truth is that the number of hours are right– it has been me that has overstocked my day.

Norad Tracks Santa


Header from the Official NORAD tracks Santa website.
No matter what country you are reading in, you are able to join in on one of our family traditions– tracking Santa with NORAD. We discovered NORAD a few years back when my older daughter was asking questions about Santa. While we are a Christian family that fully recognizes the true reason for the season, we also have fun with the tradition of Santa Clause.
So who is NORAD anyway?
The shortest answer is that NORAD is  joint military venture between the United State and Canada that tracks the Air Space around our country.
So what does that do with Christmas and Santa?
I had fun the first year reading the history on NORAD’s website, but I know that I cannot do it justice retelling the story; so, I am quoting it from NORAD’s website (linked above).
For more than 50 years, NORAD and its predecessor, the Continental Air Defense Command (CONAD) have tracked Santa’s flight.
The tradition began in 1955 after a Colorado Springs-based Sears Roebuck & Co. advertisement for children to call Santa misprinted the telephone number. Instead of reaching Santa, the phone number put kids through to the CONAD Commander-in-Chief’s operations “hotline.” The Director of Operations at the time, Colonel Harry Shoup, had his staff check the radar for indications of Santa making his way south from the North Pole. Children who called were given updates on his location, and a tradition was born.
In 1958, the governments of Canada and the United States created a bi-national air defense command for North America called the North American Aerospace Defense Command, also known as NORAD, which then took on the tradition of tracking Santa.
Since that time, NORAD men, women, family and friends have selflessly volunteered their time to personally respond to phone calls and emails from children all around the world. In addition, we now track Santa using the internet. Millions of people who want to know Santa’s whereabouts now visit the NORAD Tracks Santa website.
Finally, media from all over the world rely on NORAD as a trusted source to provide updates on Santa’s journey.
The NORAD website is a neat place to virtually visit. Not only can kids play games on the website, but it also has resources that tell about the technology used to track Santa as well as a question and answer section. The website is a great place to explore with a child who is on the verge of not believing in Santa, but still wants to keep the magic alive for at least one more year.
Don’t forget the main event- TRACKING SANTA! Starting in a little over 5 hours from when I am writing this, NORAD will begin tracking Santa as he makes his trek to deliver gifts to children around the world. Check the website throughout Christmas Eve to see where Santa has been and if NORAD was able to capture him on any of their video feeds. The website is especially a great tool for coaxing excited children to bed…my older daughter is the queen of, “I’m too excited to sleep,” but the NORAD site has always been great for showing that Santa is getting closer and she needs to be asleep before he arrives.
For those who are up on their social networking, you can also receive updates this year through Facebook and Twitter.
Thank you NORAD for creating great memories for our children! Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!

How Do I Get a Shower?


Q. My husband recently deployed. I have a baby at home. How am I supposed to get a shower with nobody there to watch her for me?
A. Your dilemma is one that a lot of people face– not even just people with deployed spouses. I learned my tricks with my older daughter and perfected them with my toddler.
The obvious answer that people will say is take a shower when the baby is asleep. It is especially helpful if you have a baby monitor so that you can hear if your baby wakes up. The catch to that, which I am sure that you have already realized, is that sometimes your baby is your alarm clock which does not allow you to get up before the baby and by the end of the day you just want to sleep too.
With my older daughter, I created our game of “Shower Peek-a-boo.” Bring a bouncy seat or Bumbo into the bathroom for the baby to sit in while you take a shower. Position the child where it is easy for you to check on her. As you take your shower, talk to her so that she knows you are there. In between each stage of showering, ie. after you put shampoo in your hair, look around the shower curtain to check on her and let her see you. Make it into a game instead of making it a chore…it can be fun when you have a baby who has started to laugh.
When my daughters became too big for their bouncy seats, I moved them into their baby bathtubs. I would place a towel in a dry baby bathtub and sit my daughter in it. This worked well until my daughter started tried standing up…then one day there was a crash as I was taking a shower. After that, we moved on to “Shower-Baths.” I would plug the tub so that my daughter could play in the water that accumulated as I took a shower. She happily played with her toys. This worked with my older daughter through her toddler years and she would even join me for a shower sometimes during her preschool years. It is a two-in-one deal, you are able to get a shower and at the same time you can bathe your child then rinse her off in the shower as well.
Things worked well for me as I had girls. Some aspects may be a bit awkward for moms trying to shower with little boys…especially depending on how open your individual family is about bodies. Some thoughts that may work with older children or toddlers/preschoolers that are boys:
(1) Bring items into the bathroom so that the child stays occupied such as a portable dvd player or something to color with (color wonder markers and paper by Crayola work great as they do not show if they end up on your walls).
(2) If you have a master bathroom that adjoins to a bedroom, then set up your child with either toys or television.
In both of the two options listed above, you may want to use a child proof door knob cover if you have a child that knows how to open doors. That way you will know exactly where your child is while you are showering.
The other hint for all of the options: learn to master the 5 minute shower and tell your husband that you would love the gift of time for a long relaxing shower when he gets home. Leave-in conditioner can be a great help with shortening a shower as the longest part of my shower is waiting for the conditioner to do its job on my long hair.
If you are a reader that has more ideas for making showers easier while watching children, feel free to add comments below.

Tips for Keeping Cool


Yesterday was a scorcher with temperatures reaching 100 degrees. It was one of those days when you do everything you can to find a little relief from the heat.  Unfortunately, many people in my area were met instead with a power outage caused by a severe thunderstorm. On the day that they wanted to cool off the most, air conditioning was not an option. This has inspired me to write these tips on how to stay cool.
(1) Plan ahead.
Over the years, I have begun to tune in to the forecasts to plan ahead. I don’t know if it is a maturing thing on my part or if it just comes from the fact that the military sent us to a place that had weather I was not used to. Either way, I started to glance at the 10 day forecast to know if there was any big weather coming up that I needed to take into account as I planned my week. If there was any unusual weather, then I watch the daily and sometimes even hourly weather. I am a huge fan of The Weather Channel‘s website. I especially like that I can sign up for free text message alerts (standard text messaging rates apply) that allow me to get severe weather alerts wherever I am…even on the go.
In the aspect of keeping cool and planning ahead, the military base that I live on gets frequent power outages…although in defense for them, the surrounding area also frequently gets those same power outages. I know that if we get thunderstorms in the Summer or snow in the Winter that there is a good chance we will lose power. It is definitely better to plan as if we will lose power and be happily surprised if we don’t. If we are at home, then I make sure that the temperature in the house is at an ideal level the day of the storm…if it is a little warmer than you prefer before you even lose power, then it will be very warm if you lose power. Once we do get an alert for severe weather, then I adjust my thermostat by a couple of degrees…if you make your house feel nice and cool in the Summer or toasty in the Winter, then it will help the house retain that coolness or heat longer when you lose power. I’m not telling anyone to blow their electricity budget, but a few degrees for a short period of time can help later if you lose power.
(2) Do it the old fashioned way.
When I was a child, I would spend my summers visiting my grandparent’s farm. Back then, they only had one box style air conditioner that went in one of the downstairs windows. On summer nights, the upstairs was an oven. When it was time for bed, my grandma would cool us down with wet washcloths. Then as my grandma sat upstairs reading my sister and I bedtime stories, she would mist us with a spray bottle.
The fond memories from my grandmother have turned into a tradition of things that I do with my own children. Whether it is for hot weather or a fever, I use wet washcloths to cool down my girls. Gently sponging over your child’s whole body can cool him/her down. We also see on television people placing washcloths on foreheads to cool down, but don’t forget that your body has other “hot spots.” Areas that can also bring great relief are the back of the neck, behind the knees, and the bottom of the feet. We even had one especially hot night, during a power outage, during which my older daughter asked for full towel to be dampened and placed over her body as she slept.
(3) Mother Nature’s air conditioner
This is another tip that I learned from my grandma…although in reality it is pure common sense. Temperatures vary throughout the day. Many of us with air conditioners get in the rut of using the thermostat to control our house’s temperature. Open up the windows and give your home a little fresh air. As the sun goes down, chances are the temperature outside will drop lower than it is inside of your house (unless you had your air conditioner cranked up to ice box level beforehand). In an effort to save electricity, my grandmother runs the air conditioner during the hottest part of the day, but opens up the windows in the evening when it is starting to cool down or in the early mornings before it heats up. The one catch is to remember to close the windows back up before the temperatures start rising again.
**A bonus tip within this section is that if you are trying to keep your house cooler during the day, close the blinds on the sunny side of the house to help the house from naturally heating up.
(4) A tip from our Disney trips.
Our very first trip to Walt Disney World was in the month of July and included a 5 month old baby. Staying cool was of definite importance to us. When it comes to going someplace fun, we are willing to endure heat and buy things like personal size Mickey Mouse fans in attempt to keep cool. Bring that same thought-line back home with you. We have hand warming packets and blankets in our emergency supplies for Winter power outages, why not pick up some small battery operated fans to have on hand for hot weather power outages? Buy one fan per person and keep them located near your emergency supplies so that you know where to find them. Many stores also sell battery operated fans that are specifically designed for small children.
(5) Drink water.
This sounds obvious; however, we hear how important it is to drink water on a daily basis that we do not think about it in the essence of cooling off. Our bodies need water in order to run their natural cooling system. Drinking water keeps you hydrated in order for your body to regulate body temperature as well as a quick glass of nice cold water can give the sensation of refreshment.
(6) Dress for the heat.
Alright, this one seems pretty obvious; however, I cannot count the number of times that either my husband or daughter have complained they are hot but they are wearing pants or something else that has a cooler version. I make sure that my family own at least some clothes or jammies that allow them to reach maximum coolness…for my tween daughter that means allowing her to own some booty shorts that I would never allow her to leave the house wearing.
(7) Cool off with water.
Nope, I am not telling you that you have to go play in the sprinkler. If you are stuck in a power outage and the storm has passed, or it is because of a brown-out, then cool off with water. Take a nice refreshing cold shower or let your kids have play time in a cool bathtub. If you don’t want to take a full shower, get long hair wet and pull it into a pony tail or simply wash your feet…two of the main places that heat escapes your body (and in turn you can help cool off your body) are the feet and the head. If you are out and about, simply running your hands under cool water can feel refreshing.
(8)Keep ice cold treats in the freezer.
Keep ice cold treats such as frozen fruit chunks in your freezer. If there is a power outage, the frozen fruit can be taken out of the freezer and placed in a cooler to alleviate opening up the freezer more than needed in order to keep the rest of the food in your freezer fresh. Several companies make real fruit purees in cups or tubes that can be frozen for a refreshingly cool treat.
(9) Camp downstairs.
Heat rises, which in the Winter can be great since most bedrooms in two story houses are located upstairs. However, in the Summer it can make for smoldering nights. For a cooler night, create a cozy location downstairs for a family slumber party.  If you don’t have things to sleep on like air mattresses, then bring every blanket, sleeping bag, and pillow downstairs to make a cozy spot. Make it a fun adventure for the family.
(10) Stay positive.
As with any situation, it is all what you make of it. The brain is one of the hardest working organs in the human  body. If you tell yourself that you are hot and miserable, then you will be hot and miserable. Be a good roll model to your children because if you have a pessimistic attitude about the situation then they likely will too. Instead, try to make the best of the situation.
There is also the theory of trying to get your mind off of the heat by thinking of cool things. I cannot guarantee that this one will work, but when all else runs out it is worth a try. Make a game of it…see who can think of the coldest thing or ask your children about their ideal day of playing in the snow.
All in all, I am wishing everyone well in the heat. Not all of these suggestions will work for every person…take the ideas that work for you. If anyone has other ideas for staying cool without electricity, then please feel free to add them in the comments section. If all else has failed, find some place cool…heat can be a dangerous thing; so, if you really cannot find a way to cool down at home or a friend’s place that is cooler, then head to a public place–even if that means a 24 hour grocery store. Please also make sure to keep an eye out for others around you such as the elderly or families with young children.

I missed WHAT? A Lesson in Synching Schedules


It seems that tracking schedules is a task that progresses and changes as technology and personal needs change. I grew from tracking life in a cute notebook that I designed myself in high school to my first realFranklin Covey organizer with a leather cover that made me feel officially like a grownup.  With the technology age came digital organizers…unfortunately for me, after I went through a few versions to finally find the one that worked for me, they were no longer the “in” thing to have. I tried tracking my schedule through Outlook, but that wasn’t mobile enough for me and printing it off seemed like a waste. Like everyone else, I moved to tracking everything important in my cell phone. The biggest dilemma with that was talking to someone on the phone, in an attempt to schedule something, and not being able to easily look at the calendar in my phone to know if I was available.
So…what is my current magic solution for organizing the schedules of my family members? Google Calendar. It only took a few minutes to set up calendars for myself, my husband and my tween as well as cross reference them so that we can all see each other’s schedules. I also set up the administrative options so that I am able to schedule things on both my husband’s and my daughter’s calendars. Now it is easy for ALL of us to see where we need to be so that we can plan accordingly.
Another great factor of Google Calendar are the alerts. If we actually had the time (and memory) to track everywhere that our family needed to be, then we would not need the calendar. The reality is that we are human, life gets busy, and we do not always remember every activity or appointment that we have. Google Calendar allows the use to set up reminders in the form of email, pop up, or a text message. The user is able to set up the reminders at whatever time intervals they need and they are able to vary by individual appointment. I am able to also set up multiple reminders…a reminder two weeks out so that I can set up daycare as well as a reminder 2 hours in advance so that I am able to make sure everyone is ready to head out the door on time. The text messages are great for when you have a busy day or know you will be on the go. It allows my husband to get a reminder that he can’t stay late at work because he needs to make it home in time for Parent and Me Tumbling.
An option that I personally like is the daily agenda. This option allows the user to get an email at about 5a.m. with their complete schedule for that day. This may not work for everyone, but I have a morning routine of checking my emails, checking my Facebook for messages from my friends, and checking the daily news headlines before starting my day. This allows me to have my full day in one handy reminder. An extra feature to that, in which I love, the subject line tells me that I have no activities on days in which I have nothing scheduled; this allows me to save the time of actually opening the email just to find out that I have nothing scheduled.
Having things “to do” is not just having scheduled appointments. Google Calendar also has a task list section that allows me to put in my daily (or monthly) “to do” list.  Since not all tasks are created equal, Google Calendar allows the user to prioritize as well as put in specific dates that a task has to be finished. Once there is a date associated with a task, it will show up on the calendar in a nice red bubble so that the task is easy to spot.
This system is only as good as the user…someone still has to input the information. It takes getting into the habit of using it. Now that I have my husband on the same page, this system is working really well for us in getting our family organized.